The Letting Off Steam Thread

[JaoSming]

"11 unspocken rules of myspace..."

Need I say more


*Most Smilies Ever Used in a post by me

[btam2]

Well it's for highschool, but it's not so much that I care about my marks, but my parents do and I try my best to please them since they put a lot of pressure on me to succeed like a typical Asian family would.

I get what you mean - I just finished my second year of college and I have had my share of pressure from family. Especially with my cousins all kick ass in school and the thing is - they're not nerds or anything. active and very good at their own sports successful in everything. Things got worse when my cuz came from China when i was a freshman in high school. Dude's like 2 or 3 years older than me but started high school as a freshman only because of english. Since he's taken everything else he was breezing through it all and he got all the praise! He got a lower ACT score than me but got into a "better" college than me because he was No. 1 in his class. Only reason because his school was a crappy high school. So now I got the pressure to top him and I always will because we're in the same grade level - still losing by the way.

Now the pressure is somewhat let go because my parents stop talking to me about education only cuz they know I'm trying my best, but inside they still have that expectation of me being a doc or something.

As for finding what you wanna do in the future, you don't gotta decide that in high school. I remember freshman year I wanted to be in computers, then a biologist, then a zoologist. Then in my senior year I wanted to be a doc. Beginning of this year I wanted to go into sociology, but then decided science is really more of my thing. Take your time - college is where you see what you wanna do.

[Its_asdf]

Thanks for comforting me guys, but I still feel like I'll turn out a failure with absolutely no future if I don't get into some prestigious university. Gee, my parents sure as hell raised me well didn't they?

[shadowgrin]

if I don't get into some prestigious university

That's where believing in yourself comes in.
Sure, to be the best you have to compete with the best, as the reason to come to a prestigious university but you'll realize later as you go out into the world that the 'best' doesn't necessarily congregate in one place or univ. Being in a prestigious university increases your chances of opportunities but those chances are not always come 100% and more like "60% of the time it works everytime!"
If you want to believe in yourself that you could still kick-ass even if you don't end up in a prestigious univ., then you're the only one who can make it happen.

[btam2]

I still feel like I'll turn out a failure with absolutely no future if I don't get into some prestigious university.

Prestigious what? My way of thinking is it doesn't matter where you go - do your best and things will unfold the way it should. I applied to only two unis, one being Loyola "great" and the other, well some people chose that as a backup school, UIC. I got accepted into both. At first I really wanted to go to Loyola and when I got accepted I was like that's it, I'm going there. But cuz of money I decided it be best I go to UIC. After two years there, I freaking love it there and I'm getting opportunites I know I would not have gotten in at Loyola. If I told people I go to Loyola compared to UIC, most people would be like nice. But I know UIC is where I should be and I have no regrets of choosing UIC over the "better" Loyola. As long as you work hard, nothing else matters.

[Indy]

UIC is a good school. I'm friends with Jimmy Collins so I go to the Pavillion and shoot around whenever I want since I came back to Chicago. I know a lot of people who go there too, we may have some mutual friends.

[[Q]]

I still feel like I'll turn out a failure with absolutely no future if I don't get into some prestigious university.

Prestigious what? My way of thinking is it doesn't matter where you go - do your best and things will unfold the way it should. I applied to only two unis, one being Loyola "great" and the other, well some people chose that as a backup school, UIC. I got accepted into both. At first I really wanted to go to Loyola and when I got accepted I was like that's it, I'm going there. But cuz of money I decided it be best I go to UIC. After two years there, I freaking love it there and I'm getting opportunites I know I would not have gotten in at Loyola. If I told people I go to Loyola compared to UIC, most people would be like nice. But I know UIC is where I should be and I have no regrets of choosing UIC over the "better" Loyola. As long as you work hard, nothing else matters.

I know how you feel man. I had the choice between the more prestigious UC San Diego and the "home of the UCSD and UCLA rejects" UC Irvine. I picked Irvine over SD and after 3 years here, I honestly couldn't picture myself in a better situation in SD.

[Tuomas]

At least in Finland people are overeducated, so life really isn't about getting all about the degree anymore, it's what you can do and offer to different employers. The plumbers, electricians and builders make crazy money.

[Jing]

Well in my case Umass isn't really prestigious, however when I came in as a cmpsci major, their program was amongst the tops in the country. I didn't like cmpsci so I switched to Accounting, and Umass's School of Management is like top 10 in the country as well, so the school overall may not be as prestigious as Harvard, Berekley, or whatever, but it has certain programs within it that are stronger. Like I seriously wanted to attend Northeastern, BU, Cornell and stuff. Got it... but I would have had to pay like 30,000 there, while I only needed pay 1/10th of that a semester here... And I'm fairly happy with Umass cause it turned out all the same.

Thinkin about going to the midwest for my MBA or Grad School... maybe Michigan or something... However I do kind of regret not apply to any Cali system schools, or Northwest, just to see what it would have been like.

[btam2]

UIC is a good school. I'm friends with Jimmy Collins so I go to the Pavillion and shoot around whenever I want since I came back to Chicago. I know a lot of people who go there too, we may have some mutual friends.

That sounds cool. I'd love to shoot in the Pav. I still havent been to a Flames bball game yet....no one I know really wants to go. who passes on free basketball game??? How do you know Collins?

[magius]

goddamn mother fucking EAEAGHSDKjcnsdkavhdkj.hgsajliejwR!!!@J$iluhasdkf!

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[Ty-Land]

goddamn mother fucking EAEAGHSDKjcnsdkavhdkj.hgsajliejwR!!!@J$iluhasdkf!

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Care to elaborate or were you just having a fit?

[magius]

sorry no and fit

[Dro]

Well it's for highschool, but it's not so much that I care about my marks, but my parents do and I try my best to please them since they put a lot of pressure on me to succeed like a typical Asian family would.

Ah, my parents were (are) exactly the same. I don't hail from an Asian household, but Iranian parents are just as bad when it comes to grades/studying. My parents would put ridiculous amounts of pressure on me...anything lower than an 'A' would be grounds for being grounded. As a result, I was a wreck my first 1.75 years in high school. I was constantly worried about my grades, and school came before EVERYTHING (which is not the way a teenager should live). It wasn't until spring break during my sophomore year when I finally said "fuck it". Went down to Mexico during break with a group of friends, drank for the first time and smoked reefer for the first time down there. That's when I realized I hadn't been having fun at all in high school, and I was already almost halfway done with high school.

After that week, I became a lot more chill; stopped caring about what my parents said about my grades, started partying A LOT and started taking more risks. Basically, what happened was that I remembered the reason why I should do good in school; not for my parents, but for myself. Not caring as much made me a better all around person...I went out a lot more, made a ton of new friends and really improved my people skills. I gained a lot of confidence, started hooking up with girls, and actually got a job. So as a result of not caring as much, I became a more well-rounded person and I really improved my self-worth (meaning I cared about myself and liked myself a lot more than when all I did was worry about grades). So I realized that I need to get good grades for myself, not for my parents. I partied, drank, smoked every weekend and still graduated in the top 1% of my class, all because I had the tools to be self-motivated.

Now, I am not saying you should take up drinking and/or smoking...not at all. I'm just saying you should remember that you don't get grades for your parents, you get them for you. Don't be afraid to incur their wrath, do what you want to do and you'll end up happier in the long run.

And don't worry so much about getting into a prestigious

I still feel like I'll turn out a failure with absolutely no future if I don't get into some prestigious university.

Is it YOU that feels you'll turn out a failure, or your parents? I think you know that you'll be fine even if you don't go to some ivy league school, but your parents are telling you otherwise, which is shitty parenting (mine are the same). I didn't get accepted into Harvard or Stanford, mainly because my SAT scores were too average (not going to get into how Middle Easterners are considered "white", meaning blacks, mexicans, asians, etc etc all get into universities easier than us...that rant is for another time). Instead, I go to Arizona State, one of the top party schools in the nation. It's a 30 minute drive from my parents' place, meaning I don't have to pay anything for rent, food, etc, and I can still hang out with the friends I have known for years. Ultimately, I'm happier here than I would be anywhere else. When I'm on my deathbed, am I going to be thinking, "oh, my life would have been so much better had I gone to Ivy League for undergrad"? You bet your ass I'm not. I'm still gonna go to med school, gonna get a great job, gonna start a family, gonna raise kids, regardless of where I spend 4 years of my college life.

[rl564411]

*beep* *beep*

So mad

[Drex]

Beep beep? What are you, a fucking robot?

puta la wea wn...algun dia ctm...algun dia...[/end spanish rant]

[Ty-Land]

I'm pissed at the people who just come in here, pretend to swear and then don't explain the situation. What's the point. Just swear to yourself, rather than type various symbols without placing them into any context.

[rl564411]

[quote="Drex"]Beep beep? What are you, a fucking robot?

puta la wea wn...algun dia ctm...algun dia...[/end spanish rant][/quote]

yeh! I'm a fucking robot!

Vaffunculo! Va la scopata voi stessi! Maledirli femmina! (Italian!!! translated!!!

[Drex]

Hey, it's one of those bots, ban him.

[Jugs]

Oh my friggin God

Fucken Byron Houston had to go out in public and masturbate which brings the value of my gold signed basketball card of him down to 50 fucken cents.

I dont care if he was a scrub undersized Power Forward, it was GOLD AND SIGNED!

[shadowgrin]

If you get him to "sign" your card with his juice it'll bring the value up again.

[Jugs]

lol, some chick went skitz at me like 10 mins ago because I called her and her friend lesbians because they started to hang out more often and isolate themselves so I was like AS IF THEY'RE NOT LESBIAN and the chick is like "you're in no position to talk, you're not a nice person or attractive"

so never call your gf's friends lesbian. lol.

[shadowgrin]

you're not a nice person or attractive

zing.

[Dean]

Her reply to you calling her a lesbian is just stupid, what does you being unattractive have to do with calling her a lesbian? Damn dyke!

[Jugs]

Make that ex gf's friends lesbians....

The bitch didnt talk to me for over a week and she told my friends that she thinks its practically over and im like damn right its over. so I told her that I agreed with her and i didnt wanna see her anymore and i was sick of her antics. everyone rofled cos i said Im sick of your antics.

I broke up with her infront of every1 and they were like "damn you were harsh"

SHE DIDNT TALK TO ME FOR OVER A WEEK WITHOUT TELLING ME WHY?