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Social Anxiety

Postby Mandich on Fri Sep 19, 2014 1:54 am

EDIT:paranoid
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby hsereenedd on Fri Sep 19, 2014 10:58 am

I do.

You are a smart man pal, i saw your posts before.

What you need to do, if you let me say (plz, don't feel obligate to accept it, only if you think it's worthy to), is to try to relax and empty your mind a little bit, but how?

Therapy (Medical, with medicines, maybe, it depends on your disease - that's the bad part, it's a disease, but the good news is it seems that you alredy found it inside of you). You need to be listened, but you also needs to listen to yourself. And then be quiet (relax). Try to accept and do not fight against the "hole" anxiety thing.

You don't need to answer all the questions, even though you might think you can, and you should think that way your entire life, but no one can.

Don't blame, resist, fight or try to solve things in one step, that's a very common mistake, try to understand the hole process, come down to your past experiences, and you are going to "draw a picture" about it.

What i see from you, is that you have a low self-esteem and try to prove to others your point of views and opinions, when you don't. In being clever as you are, you gonna figure out that you can be patience and soothing, and nice.

Try to understand how it affects you, and how you are affecting those who are involved with you, you'll succeed.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby hsereenedd on Fri Sep 19, 2014 11:07 am

Religion is a good medicine, confess your mistakes to God, or to yourself. Let yourself to be a non-perfect human being. Accept your caracter and exercise slowly and patietly your forgiveness.

You are a nice guy, even though you can be a bad one, very agressive and hurtful other times. But nothing and no one is perfect. Calm down, chill a little bit... Heheheheh... It seems stupied, i know, but the more basic instinct is to breath, so relaxing is a excellent exercise for your breathing.
Search for help, besides your friends, family and dear ones, they are the key too.

And if you still feel lonely or affected, you have us here, the NLSC isn't perfect too, but have a lot of nice people to chat, talk and trade experiences, respect them. And the positive energy is going to be sent back in a good manner for u.

You don't need to quote others... Hehehehehe - And more important, do not quote youserlf.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby hsereenedd on Fri Sep 19, 2014 11:13 am

And last, but not least, find a doctor! That's a quimical problem inside your mind, you need to balance it.
Don't be ashamed, that's very common nowadays.

i also admire your courage to come and talk about it. :applaud:
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby zzcoolj21 on Fri Sep 19, 2014 11:46 am

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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby shadowgrin on Fri Sep 19, 2014 2:03 pm

Where's Dr. Phil in the forums when you need him...
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Dr. Phil McGraw on Fri Sep 19, 2014 2:15 pm

Hey guys, how are ya?
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby shadowgrin on Fri Sep 19, 2014 2:18 pm

Yo doc, OP needs help. Work your science up this bich!
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Sigmund Freud on Fri Sep 19, 2014 3:24 pm

Tell me about your mother.
Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength.”
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby benji on Fri Sep 19, 2014 4:13 pm

1. Talk therapy. (Try just that for a bit.)
2. Get recommendation from therapist for psychiatrist. (Therapists are generally PhD's, MSW, etc. so they can't proscribe drugs, though good ones know the drugs. Psychatrists are MD/DO/NP's and thus can proscribe, but they're generally not for talk/weekly sessions.)
3. Don't resist but also don't submit to either. (This is good advice for doctors in general.) Ultimately you determine your care no matter what they do so blaming them is the easy way out.
4. Fuck Serbia.

Even without insurance these are generally not too expensive and good doctors will work with you on costs. (And generic prescriptions can often be cheaper than a handjob from shadowgrin.)
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby shadowgrin on Fri Sep 19, 2014 6:36 pm

Follow what benji says, he knows a lot about therapists and psychiatrists, especially about drugs, mostly because his flag is always at half-mast whenever he needs it.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby benji on Fri Sep 19, 2014 7:40 pm

The darkly humorous thing is that anti-depressants (and anti-anxiety) kill sex drive. And for lots of people it's worse than that, most people can't get an erection on demand like me or Dennis.

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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Mandich on Fri Sep 19, 2014 8:29 pm

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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby shadowgrin on Fri Sep 19, 2014 8:43 pm

Quoter wrote:
Benji wrote:Talk therapy.


Tried it, didn't work. Only thing that it fired inside me was to slap that woman in teh face.

Don't resist but also don't submit to either.

This sequence could work well for the plot of a soft core porn movie.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby bowdown on Sun Sep 28, 2014 4:16 am

I came from India to US around 9 years ago and I was already an anxious kid in social situations before coming here. I was so scared that I would walk outside the school to get to my classes instead of walking through the halls. I was tall, dark and awkward so I stuck out pretty easily in a sea of white kids. I would hear a lot of negative comments about my looks and awkwardness that really hurt me. You just have to build confidence in yourself because other people won't to do it for you (some really good people you meet in your life might, its rare). You have to convince yourself that if other people have a problem with you, its their own fault and not yours. Be confident to be who you are and relax. You belong in society as much as anybody else does so don't get anxious like you don't deserve to be around anybody or have to prove that you belong.

When you first take responsibility to better your own condition, you will notice outside forces also start cooperating with you and it just starts building up from there. Its funny how that works.

I would also suggest not putting negative labels on yourself because they can turn into self-fulfilling prophecies that only continue the problem. I don't even care if a qualified professional has diagnosed you. Don't say you have social anxiety, just say you have to work on being more comfortable in social settings, that's all. It takes a lot of will power and I still have some work to do in my life but I have come so far along from where I used to be.

Always have the will to improve your condition and don't think you deserve to have any less than someone else.

Also, most people are two-faced selfish scums as you said. I bet even you yourself appear that way to some people. Its just a part of life that we look out for our own self-interests first. Which is why it is very rare and lucky to find a good friend who is willing to sacrifice a little bit with you. Most people you call friends aren't friends, they are just people you happen to know.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Kevin on Sun Sep 28, 2014 10:20 am

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"Most people you call friends aren't friends, they are just people you happen to know." :bow: :applaud:
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Jowe on Sun Oct 12, 2014 6:57 pm

Brawn Shadley wrote:
Quoter wrote:
Benji wrote:Talk therapy.


Tried it, didn't work. Only thing that it fired inside me was to slap that woman in teh face.

Don't resist but also don't submit to either.

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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Mandich on Fri Jun 05, 2015 10:01 pm

Bump.

So I've been diagnosed with being mentally ill with a lot of mental disorders (details not really important). Not to surprising.

I've been taking medication for some time and it hasn't shown any sign of helping me out. None at all.

Last couple of months have been terrible for me. I've had a nervous breakdown, dropped out of college, I don't leave my house(except for running/basketball/occasional walk with a friend) because I am in no condition of doing so.

My circle of friends is now down to about 3 people I talk to outside my family.

My mother once said she thought I was faking all of this just because "I am lazy", so things haven't exactly been great home either.

I am probably going to try to go to a mental hospital as it is probably the last thing that could help me.

At least I'm making an effort to be as polite as my persona allows me to be, to everyone I encounter.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby shadowgrin on Fri Jun 05, 2015 10:13 pm

Play Minecraft, could calm your state of mind.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby NovU on Sat Jun 06, 2015 12:04 am

Hope you get well soon.

One of my relatives suffers from mental illness called bipolar disorder so I know it's not easy.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Andrew on Sat Jun 06, 2015 9:09 am

Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time, Menopauss. I hope you can find the help that you need, and that you can come through it all stronger, healthier, and happier.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby bowdown on Sat Jun 06, 2015 1:48 pm

Wishing you well in dealing with your troubles. I would suggest being honest with yourself and focus on your good qualities as a person at the same time trying to fix areas you are weak in without being too harsh on yourself. Also read books that can enlighten you about issues that bother you.
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Re: Social Anxiety

Postby Mandich on Sat Jun 06, 2015 9:01 pm

Thanks for the kinds words guys, I really appreciate it. (Y)
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