Dear LiveJournal,

[Kenny]

Their arrangements are incredible and so complex, but I think that's pretty much the reason I don't listen to them exclusively. Generally speaking, I guess I'm more for traditional 4/4 time signature music.

[Nick]

Generally speaking, I guess I'm more for traditional 4/4 time signature music.

Pussy.

[Oznogrd]

So...anyone got any stories of a friend of yours dating the girl you like and were pursuing?

Not that it's happening at the moment but it wouldn't surprise me if it does...

I once knew this guy Jesse. He was a good friend of mine. But then something changed. He got himself a girl. I wanted to be with her. And they gave each other these looks and i could practically see them in my head going at it late at night. I went along with it for awhile because i figured there wasn't a reason to change. It felt so gross when they would baby talk in front of me, and I always wanted to tell her what was going on but it was probably irrelevant. Then I'd look in the mirror, wondering why she was with him and not me. I told jokes, i wasn't overly aggressive...isnt that how its supposed to work?


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[shadowgrin]

[Kenny]

Saw Opeth tonight and they were pretty amazing. All this standing in one place thing doesn't agree with me that much anymore though.

[Nick]

Omar Rodriguez was the best live gig i've seen since Grizzly Bear. Freaking amazing.

[Kenny]

One thing that really stood out about Omar to me was his humility. I always had this assumption that he (or at least the Mars Volta) were a really pretentious band. But he seemed very genuine about his gratitude towards the crowd. Obviously his guitar playing is outstanding as well.

[The X]

So...anyone got any stories of a friend of yours dating the girl you like and were pursuing?

Not that it's happening at the moment but it wouldn't surprise me if it does...


*(puts on flamesuit)*

Yep, back in NZ I was 19. Really liked a girl who was 17. Thought I was getting good vibes from her. I didn't end up making a move when I should have. Within a week or so, one of my other co-workers, who knew I was into her ended up going out with her. I was a bit annoyed/jealous at the time but really it was my own fault for being such a pussy.

Anyways, they dated for maybe two or three years but didn't work out. I ended up becoming pretty good mates with the guy. He's a standup bloke. He said he felt bad about stepping in & dating her when he knew I was going to have a crack. I told him these things happen, no hard feelings. As he said, he thinks it worked out better for me since I ended up leaving NZ for Australia, starting new life after uni and meeting my wife and having kid & stuff. Looks like second is on the way late June, so sometimes things have a habit of working out for a reason.

But yeah, long story short, if you like a girl don't wait for perfect moment, just take a leap of faith & roll with it.

[Andrew]

Looks like second is on the way late June, so sometimes things have a habit of working out for a reason.

Congrats X! I'll spare a thought for you when I'm getting a good night's sleep, though.

[The X]

Cheers. Yep, just thought I'd slip it in there & see if anybody caught it

Sleep? What's that? Actually I do get sleep, I just wish it was unbroken sleep. Miss deep sleep & sleep-ins on weekends.

[Oznogrd]

Im kinda here with X to drop the extreme sarcasm of the last post

Before i met the current fiancee i constantly sat there looking at all the past situations with females going "man, how could i have fixed this, how did i fuck this up" so on and so forth. Emo shit. Hell alot of times i ended up back with said girls to give it another shot. It never worked. Why'd it never work? Who knows? but i've realized how stupid it all was since finding my fiancee.

Im not religious or anything, but the universe tends to work out the way things should. Have a beer, don't worry about it. It'll happen when it happens.

Grats to The X on the second kid!

Also, testing deadpool xmas hat.

[Andrew]

I'm with you guys. I don't believe it to be a cosmic force either or any kind of grand plan, more a case of different things happening at different times for everyone and a willingness to make things work regardless of the circumstances that you're dealt; seeing the new opportunities after a setback, or what appears to be a setback, rather than wallowing in gloom and self pity. That sort of thing.

[deihatein]

So, I have been feeling a little down lately, with college being a drag and some things that have been puzzling my mind.

I am in my third year in college and for some reason it's been hard for me this past couple of terms. I can pass the subjects just fine but the grades is just enough for me to pass and that's what been keeping me depress, maybe the reason is I am procrastinating as hell and I can't break that habit. I am also having a hard time in group projects since I can barely contribute anything with me just being a below average student and because of all of that I can't help but think on what will happen with me on the future.

Also it's been crossing my mind lately that I have no friends, I mean I have friends but when I am with them it's like I am feeling left out and just around there physically. I don't think I have a friend that will help me in times like these when I am feeling down, that someone I can talk too. Probably because I have a low self-esteem/confidence that I think when I share things like these they will just laugh or not give good advice.

[Patr1ck]

Friendship is about trust. Find people who will trust you, and people you can trust, with common interest(s). One common interest is enough to get started on a friendship.

It really sounds like you are having a hard time concentrating on what you want. Open yourself up a bit, ask people questions to get discussions started, introduce yourself. The old casual "what's up?" works wonders. Hell, you could ask someone in your class to help you study or study together and kill three birds with one stone by making a friend, improving your grades and getting things done instead of procrastinating. Prioritizing what you want and doing that first is the most important thing.

[Andrew]

Couldn't agree more. It could be that you have less in common with your friends than you used to, in which case expanding your social circle is probably for the best.

[koberulz]

Bought a Batman: Arkham City box this afternoon.

Ended up getting the game itself for ten bucks off the sticker price, though (not due to that, though; it rang up as ten bucks cheaper than the sticker the first time through), so it worked out alright in the end.

[deihatein]

Friendship is about trust. Find people who will trust you, and people you can trust, with common interest(s). One common interest is enough to get started on a friendship.

It really sounds like you are having a hard time concentrating on what you want. Open yourself up a bit, ask people questions to get discussions started, introduce yourself. The old casual "what's up?" works wonders. Hell, you could ask someone in your class to help you study or study together and kill three birds with one stone by making a friend, improving your grades and getting things done instead of procrastinating. Prioritizing what you want and doing that first is the most important thing.

Thanks for the advice Pdub. Getting a discussion started wouldn't be a bad idea if I could get a topic to be discuss. I just can't think of something of interest that is worth talking.

[Patr1ck]

Farts, bowel movements, and body odors are a good starting point.

As in, try not to take it so serious. Nobody wants to discuss detailed politics and stories of fun with bodily fluids with someone they are talking to for the first time. Smile anytime someone talks to you or makes eye contact and greet them, even if it doesn't start a conversation. Usually conversations just happen. I cant think of anything, but some back and forth quick talk will eventually cause some synapses to fire in your brain and before you know it, your talking about bullshit that you don't really care about but you are enjoying it because you are making a connection.

For instance at work, since I work at night, conversations almost always end up with innuendo or playful sarcastic poking. I can't recall anything amazingly interesting that we talk about. It's usually about work or meaningless bullshit, but it's talk. Sometimes a small outburst will work wonders. A co worker was walking by me and she said "Damnit! I forgot my kneepads. I don't want to go all the way out to my car." So I said in jest, "You want to borrow my sweaty kneepads?" She was like "NO!!" Obviously, when she pulled out the kneepads comment, I could have gone straight to innuendo, like "I could stand on a chair or sit on a desk" or "You won't need them, it'll reach all the way up there." The thing is, you MAKE the conversation interesting.

Silence propagates itself, and the longer talk has been suspended, the more difficult it is to find anything to say.
If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life, he will soon find himself alone. A man should keep his friendships in constant repair.
Samuel Johnson

[Oznogrd]

Pdubs right. Talk about any bullshit..the decoration in the place, the music, the idiot old man in the bar trying to pick up jailbait, anything and everything is fair game. Dont worry about it, strike it up, see if it goes anywhere. If they dont like it they'll bail.

[Houndy]

Agreed with the others, I used to be shy myself, but once you get talking, the more interested people are into you.

[shadowgrin]

If all else fails you could always punch them in the face. A light punch will do, enough to knock their head back a bit but not strong enough to make their nose bleed. That's always a good conversation starter.



Free day today. TF2 play time marathon. Fuck yeah.

[Lean]

I've got to agree with the "what's up" intro. Works everytime.

[shadowgrin]

I didn't know MDK is available on Steam.

*now away looking at Steam sales*

[deihatein]

Thanks for the advice guys. Since it's Christmas break maybe I will have time to think about things and by the time the classes resume and a new term start I will be socializing or something by then (or I will be sober and getting drunk like Lamrock)

[JaoSming]

ugh, just got back from a long day out. Came back and the dogs were in the living room with the tree and presents (one of them ripped presents up last year enacting a ban), my wife said something to her brother about it and he made her cry. I got pissed and told him to wise up and use his head and reminded him of the dogs from last year, he got mad and yelled "THIS IS MY HOUSE TOO", to which I replied, "Then pay something towards it"

Quick background, I gave up my full time job to move in with my father-in-law since he couldn't afford the house after the divorce. Both brothers were off to college and dementia was starting to set in. Right after one of them committed a felony and is living here, but he works and chips in, the other one mooches off everyone but usually stayed at the college apartment. Lately there has been talks of just moving back home, right as we got comfortable and, as you guys know, began to start a family.

He got pissed and started throwing shit, and sped off, father in law comes out saying "I'm so sick of this shit" and then he speeds off in his car.

I grew up in a confrontational family, if someone did something wrong, we told them. Their family is the opposite, just lets this brother be even if he screws his own family over. The fact that I lasted a year and a half up here before saying something is amazing......