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Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Fri Oct 13, 2017 4:02 am

But the real question is...Are you WILLING to be happy?
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby Jackal on Fri Oct 13, 2017 7:11 am

You should self medicate.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Fri Oct 13, 2017 9:09 am

That response was medication enough. Thanks for your honest feedback.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby shadowgrin on Fri Oct 13, 2017 12:44 pm

I'm guessing this is another bullshit thread like your "i wannabe an actor" thread.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Fri Oct 13, 2017 1:12 pm

Its not bullshit. Im trying to cognitive therapy my ass out of depression and I keep working with ideas to see their effectiveness in making me feel better and help me have a more positive disposition.

Im making progress as I am understanding which ways of thinking are constructive and which are not. I have had a lot of ups and downs but I am understanding myself better and am shedding a lot of negativity that has been weighing me down my whole life.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby [Q] on Fri Oct 13, 2017 2:47 pm

The first step is knowing or learning how one becomes happy
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sat Oct 14, 2017 3:29 am

Do you have some advice or knowledge you would like to share?
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby [Q] on Sat Oct 14, 2017 4:26 am

That was my advice. Of course, happiness is different for everybody, so it's up to you to figure out what you need. Once you find out what you need, I suggest surrounding yourself with people that can help you or teach you how to get what that is
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sat Oct 14, 2017 5:16 am

You are right and that has been the tough part. I decided to fully empower myself as a person a couple of years ago because my life sucked and there was a lot of hurt inside me. I had an antagonistic view towards people and wanted to show everyone that I was better than them. I went to a job where I worked really well for about 13 months and quit willingly because my antagonistic attitude towards people caused me to endure a lot of psychological abuse (Im not fully innocent either. People who are hurt end up hurting others as well).

Anyways, I am some 10 months removed from that job and still have strong memories of having put up with all that shit. I have done a lot of soul searching and have tried to correct my own mentality but this shit is hard. My goal is no longer to be competive with other people but just to become the best version of myself I can become.

Im making progress but when the lows hit you its not fun. I know in my heart I have the potential to be a happy person and be a good example of a strong and loving individual.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby Sauru on Sat Oct 14, 2017 2:12 pm

I used to be happy, but then they changed what happiness was, and now what I’m happy about isn’t it. And what’s happy seems weird and scary to me.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sat Oct 14, 2017 2:34 pm

I figured it out. My antagonism has been the problem all along. But it was a necessary step I had to take in order to build self confidence that comes only by being willing to put up a fight for what you believe in. I am moving forward in life as a loving person who wants to be a positive influence wherever I go. I have learned all I needed to learn from negativity and am glad to finally have enough insight to leave it behind for good.

You could call this phase I went through what is usually known as "facing your inner demons" phase and I am glad to have made it out of it succesfully. I am looking forward to living a happy life.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sun Oct 15, 2017 9:04 am

I hate to double post but this is a new thought that came to me. I was happy as a child because back then I was willing to laugh at myself. I used to make self deprecating jokes and act silly which made others laugh and made me feel good too. Its been said that children come into the world already knowing the truth but they lose themselves in trying to fit in with the ideas and beliefs of society.

All my issues have been caused by me taking myself too seriously as I was going through my empowerment stage. Now I am going back to the way I was as a kid; willing to laugh at myself and let go of all anger and resentment.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Tue Oct 17, 2017 1:43 am

Had a new idea/insight this morning. A lot of things come and go in life but one thing that always remains is the sadness that is at the core of every conscious being. I have been trying to escape this sadness for the past few years which has led to all my misery and also caused me to end up hurting others as well.

From now on I am willing to fully embrace the sadness that is inside me because after all it is the truth. I hope accepting this truth will set me free.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Thu Oct 19, 2017 4:56 am

I think I have figured it out. The way out of depression is to be your own best cheerleader (ha, gay!). I hereby encourage myself to not tolerate things I don't like. I encourage myself to live up to my own standards. I encourage myself to stop worrying. I encourage myself to be joyful. I encourage myself to be the best I can be. I encourage myself to be happy.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby SoF'nAwesome on Thu Oct 19, 2017 4:01 pm

Well gay does mean light-hearted and carefree.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Fri Oct 20, 2017 5:51 am

I also encourage myself to take full responsibility for my life.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sat Oct 21, 2017 10:16 am

Alright so I think I have reached a true landmark.

I accept the truth.


Its that simple. Our ignorance or unwillingness to accept the truth is what causes all suffering in life

I accept the truth.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sun Oct 22, 2017 6:53 am

So once you have accepted the truth what else is left to do? The only thing left to do is sit back and observe the comedy of human life here on earth. Do not take things personally as love is the only truth in this world and everything else is a joke. Accept the truth which is love and laugh at everything else my friends.

That should do it.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sun Oct 22, 2017 4:09 pm

Everyone wants love but you have to earn it.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Mon Oct 23, 2017 8:33 am

I am the source of my happiness.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby Jackal on Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:37 am

Quit spamming dude. Be happy, but just edit your post to be happy. No need to keep bumping this thing up.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby shadowgrin on Tue Oct 24, 2017 3:05 pm

bowdown wrote:I am the source of my happiness.

Seems you had a good wank.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Wed Oct 25, 2017 8:03 am

Being honest ever since I adopted this new mindset I don't even feel like watching porn or fapping anymore. I have a feeling of contentment and am focusing on things that actually matter instead of trying to satisfy little cravings.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby Lamrock on Thu Oct 26, 2017 8:45 am

As somebody who suffers from depression, I can relate to this thread somewhat. I often find myself searching for some kind of epiphany that will allow me to be a happy, productive, decent person. However, while that may be encouraging for a day or two, I realize that it was just an empty platitude, and that happiness takes more effort than that.

Anyway, I'd say the best suggestion in this thread is to self-medicate.. or at least that's the one that works best for me. :P

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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Thu Oct 26, 2017 9:38 am

Depression is not who you are. You need to find your inner source of happiness and protect it from being used by people who don't give a shit about you. I would highly recommend the book Healing and Recovery by Dr. David Hawkings. It has a chapter on depression and he says to get out of depression a person must realize that happiness can only come from within. Friendships, relationships, jobs, physical appearance and other outward circumstances can change at anytime and when you rely on those things for your happiness you are bound to fall into depression.

Once a person realizes that they are their own source of happiness they can begin the real work of building an identity that revolves around it.

I am not going to give up hope. In this thread I have shared my step by step progress and my mental state is way better than when I first created this thread.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby shadowgrin on Thu Oct 26, 2017 5:06 pm

You could also start by updating the image in your sig.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Fri Oct 27, 2017 3:23 am

Another breakthrough I had last night. I keep replaying the negative experiences in my life because that is what my mind focuses on. When I start focusing on the positive side of the same situation I feel filled with a feeling of empowerment. I will start focusing on the positive side of things from now on.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sat Oct 28, 2017 5:35 am

Don't be afraid to stand out and tell the truth. Tell your truth.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sat Oct 28, 2017 12:20 pm

I am not abusive like all those losers who tried to bring me down.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby shadowgrin on Sat Oct 28, 2017 1:54 pm

You gotta be the very best like no one ever was.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sun Oct 29, 2017 12:16 am

I'm being the best I can be. Most people don't have the courage or get seriously insecure because of it.


Edit: to be honest I thought I was fighting abuse on the outside but the real lesson for me is to remove the abusive tendencies inside me.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby Jackal on Sun Oct 29, 2017 6:42 am

How much attention do you need dude? Damn. Foe-list do your job from here on out.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sun Oct 29, 2017 9:28 am

You contribute nothing but critical negativity. You cannot contribute anything worthwhile in this world so you must attack those that have the capacity to.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby shadowgrin on Sun Oct 29, 2017 9:36 am

To catch him is the real test, to train him is the cause.
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Re: Everyone Wants To Be Happy

Postby bowdown on Sun Oct 29, 2017 9:42 am

Andrew, you can lock this thread. I have gotten far along enough. Thanks for letting me have a place to share this.
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